We toss around the word "ego" like it's the enemy, something to be overcome or transcended. But the ego, the personality, the small self, has been created by you for the very purpose of offering you the tools you need to remember who you truly are, and then a way to express that truth. The ego itself is not bad. Allowing the personality to rule your life with identification to past experiences, habitual ways of being, belief systems, appearances, material possessions, etc. stands in the way of your self realization. When you remember, realize, awaken to your Divine self, your personality doesn't leave; it begins to align with that Truth. And because you are a Creator, when your personality (which is how you interact with this human life) aligns with your Divine self, the world you experience also begins to align in this way.
You begin to see through the eyes of love. You do not deny any of your feelings; you welcome them as guests and teachers. You do not stop having a sense of humor; you rejoice in how funny you can be. You do not stop experiencing your sexuality; you embrace your desire and your pleasure as the Beloved. You do not drop out of society, renounce all material possessions, and become a breatharian (unless of course this is your true desire and purpose); you enjoy and appreciate and engage with life.
You might think, "I am a stylish person, I am in control, I am ashamed of my behavior, I am a successful businessperson, I am a cheery person, I am a facilitator, I am a sarcastic son-of-a-bitch, I am a masterful gardener, I am a yoga teacher" - but when you let go of these impermanent identifications and locate your knowing of who you are in your divinity, you simply cannot lose. The Truth of who you are remains, always. You become free, and wealthy beyond imagination. You know your wholeness. The I AM that is your Divine self is expressed through you, effortlessly, and you experience the gift of unconditional love that you truly are.
Here is one simple practice to help you relocate to Truth:
Give yourself some space, some quiet. Say aloud a list of things about you (it's important that you actually say these things out loud, not just in your head).
"I am a mother" (father, sister, etc.)
"I am a banker" (mindfulness teacher, grocery checkout person, travel agent, etc.)
"I am an attractive woman, I am a circus performer, I am an addict, I am the president of such-and-such" - let the list come out as it will, according to how you have known yourself.
Then end by saying aloud:
"I am not that."
I celebrate you in this moment on your journey of homecoming
And in this moment
And in this one.
You're doing such a good job.