Sometimes the sweetest healing is not when things change, but when you feel like everything’s all right anyway. Not when the problems are fixed, but when you feel ok even though they’re here. You no longer fight or avoid or complain about it. You feel loving acceptance of what is.
Even though your life looks different than what you wanted. Even though you just did that old pattern of behavior again. Even though you fell off the wagon. Even though your son avoids you. Even though your friend takes but doesn’t give. Even though you’re bored with life. You look at yourself and your troubles, and you feel love. You accept that this is what’s here, now.
The troubles are still there. It’s your experience of it all that’s different… lighter... accepting. It’s not a closing off, a hardening, an avoidance, a “screw it” attitude. You experience joy and openheartedness, even when the things that used to bother you (inside or outside of you) are still happening.
Not that you don’t take action to create the life you want, but your experience of the way things are right now is different. Your loving acceptance changes you.
Maybe you see the problems for the opportunities that they might be, and the way you take action changes.
You trust that while you may never have all the answers – you may never figure anything out (in fact, maybe you don’t need to) – it will all unfold perfectly, likely in ways you never expected (in fact, maybe it already has).
Have you experienced loving acceptance of what is? How does it feel? How did you get there?
Do you feel that acceptance helps or hinders progress? Is it an end in itself?
Do you resist acceptance? Why?
To be continued…