Friend. Your intuition is spot on. If something makes you wag your tail, look there.
Sometimes your brain will bother you with nagging thoughts of regret or concern. Don't worry about them. When you notice your brain doing this little dance, acknowledge it: "Huh. The brain is doing this regret thing." Or even: "Hm. That's not me." Then ask to switch - or declare that you are switching - to a different lens. For example: "I'm ready to see this through the eyes of love." Or maybe: "I'm switching to a loving lens." Or how about starting here: "I love you, (your name)." You can shift to a different way of seeing, thinking, feeling.
This shifting to a different Way - these are not just words on a page. It is real.
Lovingness is not some foreign experience to seek or figure out or make happen. It is in you; it is who you are, and all that is required is a shift in your awareness, your perspective. Move your attention. Become aware of love. It is.
So relax, yes? Be nice to you. Breathe the love that is always and already Who You Are.
Your feelings, in combination with your thoughts, are magnetizing experience to you. So let them be loving, in service to the highest good for yourself and all beings. Why bother with anything else?
You are brilliantly designed to create your experience based on your feelings and focus. Luckily, you have been evolutionarily gifted with consciousness, the ability to use mindfulness, and free will, all of which you can combine and use as a tool to literally rewire your brain and help you create the experience you want to be having. If you have already discovered these tools, you can count this as a reminder to go ahead and use them. It is your gift and your birthright and your purpose to create, and you are doing it, consciously or not. You get to do it from love or from fear. You get to choose. These are not just words on a page; it is real. You get to choose your experience, and since everything is connected, your experience affects everything.
Remember love. It is who you are.
You are important, Sister.
Brother, you are important.
Thank you for your good work.
Bowing to your heart,